Most doula websites seem to be ultra-fem; soft images, pretty colors, gendered language, and hetero couples. That’s fine, there’s no shade on those type of sites. It seems like they all follow an invisible pull to arrange their sites in all the same way. There’s always a big picture in the header, often with a pregnant person, or their own face. Also why is there so much pink? Now I’m not anti-pink, because a color has no inherent meaning, meaning is dictated by society. But it’s curious that all the doula sites look the same. I’m not sure if it’s the case of the blind leading the blind or there’s some reason behind it all.
No matter, here in my blog you will not get that vibe. I am into motorcycles and pizza (obvs!). Also, good food, mostly made by me. This will include pics of my grill which does include meat. So, if you are squeamish about that, this is not the place for you. I let you know up front so you can prevent yourself from seeing images of food that you would rather not. This blog will be a place where I can finally be myself, a person who struggles with feeling like they don’t fit in.
That’s the story of my life really, I’ve never felt like I’ve fit in anywhere. However, for my training I did find an awesome doula training agency, BADT. They are a black-owned, queer-run doula training organization. They’re f*cking awesome, I did feel like I fit in with their training courses. Because while this blog may come off as with a slightly more conservative feel (motorcycles!) I am in no way conservative whatsoever. And this informs my doula work, becasue we’re often thought to be advocates. And I would totally agree with that. We advocate for the pregnant person; we advocate for those recently postpartum. We advocate for a change in reproductive health care in whatever country that we’re in, making us in my opinion quite liberal and left-y.
So, if the initial vibe made you uncomfortable, sorry. I hope you stick around for some motorcycle and pizza talk. There will probably be doula-talk along the way. I’ve met some pretty rad people, people I would have never met except if I was in this line of work. Doulas are f*cking rad, they are some of the most down-to-earth people I’ve ever met. They’re also pretty hardcore. They help babies exit other’s bodies. I won’t get into it here, but that’s nuts. Anyways, thanks for being here I hope you stick around.
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